William isn't into this but whenever he has wanted to do sword fighting (around Christmas with all the wrapping tubes) we do! Mind you tho - William has done fencing so to us - it is more of a sport - with all the en garde and putting the sword up against our ace and bowing and standing in position and thrusting and marking against each other - if one of us gets out tho - we sort of go - eeeuuurrggh and fall to the floor in fits of giggles - but i don't see it as real violence.
He isn't into guns either but we have played (in big groups) where the child goes in the middle and points at you and you 'die' but again it is not vioelnt and it is fun and we all laugh and see who can die best and the children are all in fits of giggles. Again tho - William has done air rifle shooting, gatt guns, archery and mini target shooting. he thinks of these as sports, to shoot at a target of rings to score points and to impove with each go that you take. And he does it with a instructor. He would never point it at a living creature (animal/human) as that it not allowed.
He does not use any aggressive language - I would put a stop to that if he did. I don't have that in my house.
Is their a school policy on violent pretend play? There might be and they may be un-allowed to play it whilst at school. TBh - Felix is a very bright boy and mature - if you told him what these phrases meant..... would he still want to say them? If he knew they were mean, unkind, even rude?
Gill - William wants a nerf gun - I have told him next Christmas as the bits are too small for James. I used to have something similar and they are so much fun!
Last year - was the first year that William got a water pistol. Before that - we used clean garden spray containers as they do the same job - but last year he bought himself a little gun shaped one.
Unfortunately guns are on tv - all the time! Even gigglebiz when Justin stops the man from robbing the bank! I don't think we can remove them completely so IMO - it is better to have them and play nicely with them. However - I am against the ones that really really look real i like it to look like a toy. If William asks for one - then I will get him one. I had one as a child and I think I am ok?
Hmmm.. I have waffled.